You need to check in with yourself. It is vital for your mental health and well-being. Day in and Day Out you have other people’s voices in your head that your voice is drowned out. Take time for yourself. Ask yourself:
What is true?
Are you letting my feelings make decisions for me?
Are you working on a project you truly desire to work on?
Are you entertaining negative energy?
What is the bigger picture?
Are you living for just the temporary moment and not the bigger picture?
Are you taking your goals piece by piece or are you stressing yourself out by trying to do everything at once?
Let me know if you take time to reflect and what are some tips you have for wellbeing!
Something I wanted to Share with you
Pursuing Serenity (Your Top Priority)
Self-Care and Love (Beyond Pampering)
As someone who lives with mental illness, my biggest desires are peace and joy. It is hard trying to obtain it when you are in constant battle with your mind.
I always say that I want to be living and not surviving but I never knew what living was. I always thought living was doing what everyone seems to do nowadays: find financial freedom and travel. I always knew that there was more to life than that (I still want to travel). I caught glimpses of what actual living was through podcasts and sermons.
The living is taking life in bits with patience. We are always doing something. I take great pride in being a busybody but, it feels better to simplify life. My mother said it best: take life second by second, minute by minute and day by day. We tend to forget to take it all in slowly and through pieces. It is easy because we are fed so much information at once. There is easy access to everyone and less privacy.
This week has been emotionally tough. I haven’t been in the mood to write or even open up my documents to begin the process. I had nothing to write about and nothing to share. I was not in a good place at all. I talked to my mother earlier and she told me about the Woman and The judge and how through the Woman’s persistence she was able to accomplish her goal. It was the word persistence that struck me. It is interesting how you need to be persistent to be consistent. You have to push through feelings. You can not quit. The will to be persistent is the drive that leads to consistency.
Every day it will feel like you are tearing down brick walls named, “I don’t FEEL like it” or “I am not in the mood”. Somedays those walls won’t even be knocked down and you will slip back into inconsistency. But true persistency is when you get back up and you fight harder. Each time you get knocked down, fight. Every time you run into a wall, fight. Fight to win and don’t give up.
I am a perfectionist. It is hard for me to finish projects because they can always be better. Being a perfectionist also contributes to my inconsistency and procrastination. I put so much pressure on myself to do something great or just be the best. An example that I struggle with is reading the Bible and praying. I don’t stay consistent because I always pressure myself to read every day or I condemn myself a bad Christian. It does feel good the days when I do read the bible and I pray. It feels like a weight off of my shoulder but the hard part is reaching my own expectations for me. I am always trying to be this perfect version of myself at the expense of myself. I’ve noticed that being a perfectionist has inhibited me to have peace within my mind and with myself. I don’t feel free. I am critical of everything and I hold myself back. I wait to have all of my ducks in a row until I can do something that I want to do. So what is the point of being a perfectionist?
It isn’t healthy and there aren’t results. It affects hobbies and things that I would want to progress in. There isn’t a need for it anymore. If you are anything like me you may have these symptoms as well from being a perfectionist.
Here are some reasons why perfectionism isn’t healthy:
- Not Authentic (meaning no peace)
- Inconsistent because you put too much pressure on yourself
- Procrastination/Never completing tasks
- You hold yourself back because you wait for all your ducks to be in a row
- You’ll never be at your best
Again, there isn’t any worth to keep picking at yourself and plus it is not your place to judge anyone including yourself.
-Stop condemning yourself
-Learn to let go of the control and give it to a higher power
-Accept yourself and know that it will all work in your favor
Once we take these steps and learn how to be free life will be so much better. 🙂
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