The Need To Perservere

This week has been emotionally tough. I haven’t been in the mood to write or even open up my documents to begin the process. I had nothing to write about and nothing to share. I was not in a good place at all. I talked to my mother earlier and she told me about the Woman and The judge and how through the Woman’s persistence she was able to accomplish her goal. It was the word persistence that struck me. It is interesting how you need to be persistent to be consistent. You have to push through feelings. You can not quit. The will to be persistent is the drive that leads to consistency.

Every day it will feel like you are tearing down brick walls named, “I don’t FEEL like it” or “I am not in the mood”.  Somedays those walls won’t even be knocked down and you will slip back into inconsistency.  But true persistency is when you get back up and you fight harder. Each time you get knocked down, fight. Every time you run into a wall, fight. Fight to win and don’t give up.

 

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Hiatus: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Hi everyone,

 

I know I haven’t posted anything for a while and that is because I was lying to myself.  I started comparing myself to others and pressuring myself again. I felt like I had nothing to offer to the word. I was doing good “just doing it” and kicking in the mental walls and then all of that came to a halt. I started saying I need to stop and read more or I need to have a good story or I wasn’t feeling it.

 

I was trying to wait until all my ducks were in a row.  That has always been my problem. I like to wait. I dismiss the things I want to do or have a passion for because of how I judge myself. I always say I’m not together or I am not fit but none of that matters. Who am I to say that I am not fit. Sometimes you have to just take that leap and learn as you go, and surprisingly, that is the way that I love to learn.

 

So stop waiting and just do it!

Self-Care and Love (Beyond Pampering)

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Everyone wants to make videos and speak on self-care but what is it and what does it look like. Self- Care is more than just bubble baths, faces masks and detox water. Although self-care can include that, it is much more.

Self Care is making sure you are groomed even when you don’t want to shower. Cleanliness will make you feel better and you may even get a jolt of energy.

Self Care is taking time to reflect on what you did each day.  We don’t think about what we did during the day, what was accomplished or how we felt throughout the day. We don’t question why we’ve felt what we felt. I was guilty of journaling and not being conscious while I write. After I would journal, I still felt the same way I did before I journaled, but now that I reflect I feel much calmer. I also gain clarity and insight.

Self-Care is doing what is best for you. Sometimes, doing what is best for you is something that you may not want to do. You may have to read when you don’t want or to or break up with someone that you love.

Self-Care is knowing who you are. You have to realize that you are a better person than you think you are. Depression can make you feel like you aren’t resilient or a horrible person but that isn’t true. Don’t degrade yourself just forgive yourself and work on your issues. It is something that is hard and we tend to condemn ourselves but there isn’t any reason why you need to put yourself in hell. Let God be the judge and stop judging.

Self-Care is celebrating. Sometimes we don’t realize that we got a lot done in one day.  It is okay to pat yourself on the back because you deserve it.

Self-Care is not pressuring yourself. Be kind to you. Love yourself and be patient.  You are not supposed to be another person or a copy.

Self- Care is healing. Free yourself and live authenticly.

Self-Care products that I highly recommend:

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Kao MEGURISM Health Care Steam Warm Eye Mask,Made in Japan, Lavender Sage 14 Sheets

I like using the lavendar steam eye masks for the bags under my eyes or when I need to be still and calm down. The warm up very quickly and feel very soothing.

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Aura Cacia – Discover Essential Oils Kit (Packaging May Vary) | .25oz each of Lavender, Peppermint, Tea Tree and Eucalyptus

Aura Cacia is a brand of essential oils that I have used. I use these with their infuser but you can use any type of infuser with these or however else you want to use these. My favorite scents are Jasmine, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli and Bergamont.

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Earl Grey Creme Black Tea by Teavana
This is my favorite tea. It is very soothing to drink and great with milk and honey. It will pair well with a Bergamot essential oil and bubble bath.

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How To Stop Being a Perfectionist ( and 5 Reasons why you should stop)

I am a perfectionist. It is hard for me to finish projects because they can always be better. Being a perfectionist also contributes to my inconsistency and procrastination. I put so much pressure on myself to do something great or just be the best. An example that I struggle with is reading the Bible and praying. I don’t stay consistent because I always pressure myself to read every day or I condemn myself a bad Christian. It does feel good the days when I do read the bible and I pray. It feels like a weight off of my shoulder but the hard part is reaching my own expectations for me.  I am always trying to be this perfect version of myself at the expense of myself. I’ve noticed that being a perfectionist has inhibited me to have peace within my mind and with myself. I don’t feel free. I am critical of everything and I hold myself back. I wait to have all of my ducks in a row until I can do something that I want to do.  So what is the point of being a perfectionist?

It isn’t healthy and there aren’t results. It affects hobbies and things that I would want to progress in. There isn’t a need for it anymore. If you are anything like me you may have these symptoms as well from being a perfectionist.

Here are some reasons why perfectionism isn’t healthy:

  1. Not Authentic (meaning no peace)
  2. Inconsistent because you put too much pressure on yourself
  3. Procrastination/Never completing tasks
  4. You hold yourself back because you wait for all your ducks to be in a row
  5. You’ll never be at your best

 

Again, there isn’t any worth to keep picking at yourself and plus it is not your place to judge anyone including yourself.

So…..

-Stop condemning yourself

-Learn to let go of the control and give it to a higher power

-Accept yourself and know that it will all work in your favor

 

Once we take these steps and learn how to be free life will be so much better. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Not letting your emotions control you

Don’t let your emotions control you.

It is easy to let your emotions control you especially when you are depressed. You have to look at the situation as something that’s temporary. You also have to remember what you are working towards, isn’t temporary. You can’t let a short-term feeling affect your long-term success.

It’s hard to not have it together when you feel upset. Personally, I procrastinate out of emotions. I get so anxious or depressed that I take breaks.  I look at others and compare myself to them. I pressure myself and cage up my potential. I want to quit.  A lot of negative events happening at one time and I feel like I can’t handle them. But, I thought to myself, I enjoy writing. I want to share this with you because I understand what it is like to let emotions get the best of you.  I want to let you know that you shouldn’t sabotage your future for momentary satisfaction. You got this! You are special and you deserve greatness. 🙂

7 lessons that I’ve learned while writing my first official script

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A script is what makes the film. Many of the best movies have the best scripts and many great directors have written their own scripts. The script plays a major role; it’s imperative not to have one. As I finish up my own script, I want to share some of the knowledge that I’ve gained. This information is valuable to those who aspire to make a film but do not know where to start, those who are in the process of writing a script or someone who critics movies.

Here are 7 lessons I have learned while writing my script:

1. Read other scripts
-When I started writing in Celtx I felt overwhelmed. Even though I had read a various amount of scripts, I still had trouble with formatting and writing. After reading a few more scripts while I worked, I had more confidence while I wrote.

2. Scripts are blueprints for making a film.

– The script includes all of the details such as how the scene should look, feel, what the character is doing and dialogue. When there isn’t a script then a film goes downhill. The script keeps the organization and flow of the story. An example of a film without a completed script is, Myra Breckenridge. The film had many issues that inhibit its completion. The staff was confused about the direction the movie was going in and that issue caused a lot of fights. Not only is this film known for the feuds, but it is also known as a bad film.

Sidenote: I actually like the book and the movie.

3. Writing a script is a tedious process

– A script is (often) over 100 pages. Each page contains transitions, dialogue and descriptions of the scene which include the camera details as well as character details.

4. Changes will happen

-One of the challenges of writing is creating the story. In order for the story to progress, changes need to be made. Some scenes will need to be taken out because they add nothing to the story. Some details may need to be added in to help move the story along.

5. Writing a script can be therapeutic and fun

-As a writer, my inspiration comes from life experiences and dreams. When I use my life experiences to tell a story it is therapeutic; I can examine my feelings and pour out my emotions into something that it healthy. When I use my dreams, screenwriting can be fun because I can explore a new world and get into the mindset of a different character.

6. The opening scene is hard to write.

– There is a lot of pressure to write the opening scene because it needs to grab the attention of the viewers. Because writing the first scene is hard it is also difficult to write the first word! Even though I have 2 outlines finding the way to word the opening scene is still difficult. For my latest project, the opening found me. I stumbled across a song that perfectly summed up the feelings I had for the scene and I wrote it. Do not pressure yourself to write.

7. The Outline is the blueprint for your script

-The outline helps with writing the script, the more detailed your outline is the difficulty of writing it lessens. The outline is like a skeleton for the script and it helps you have an idea of how the story is going to flow.

 

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