Something I wanted to Share with you

I have anxiety and major depression. One of the things I do to help me stay productive and energetic is bananas. Bananas are a natural stress reliever and it instantly gives you energy. I challenge all of you to try and eat a banana a day and let the stress go away. Here is an article for you to read about Bananas!

 

https://spoonuniversity.com/healthier/eating-two-bananas-the-natural-anxiety-reducer

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Janet Jackson’s The Velvet Rope and Inspiration to Heal

Janet Jackson’s The Velvet Rope album is one of my favorite albums. It played a big role in my childhood because my mother loves Janet Jackson and we had a copy of the HBO special plus the CD. Both the HBO special and the CD helped me with cultivating my soundscape and visual artistry. The Velvet Rope was sonically ahead of its time and the performances received many accolades but, the most important part of the album is the creative process that Janet went through. This was how Janet freed herself. Through recording this album, Janet was healing from her past.

This album was pivotal to the black community. It inspired many conversations such as domestic violence, STIs, sexual identity and being creatively free. As a young black woman who is very creative, I cherish this album. I want to heal and put myself in my art because of this album. The story behind this album teaches us to work on ourselves rather than try and be someone else, to heal and not care what people think.

Janet didn’t allow herself to be caged as a black sex icon and feeding the stereotype of black women being sexual objects. Through this album, she showed the humanity of black people and what we go through, specifically black women. Like she said, we are invited behind the velvet rope.

Janet also showed us that we didn’t need to be the best or perfect to get something accomplished. Janet is not the best singer but she utilized what she had and it was amazing.

In her HBO special she created an entire universe on stage. The costumes and set designs instantly transported you to another world. She didn’t let anyone stop her from giving birth to something unique.

Through creating something that was authentic she cemented herself as a legend. She was just being herself and standing in her truth.

After thinking in depth about her journey, I am reminded about “seek first the kingdom of God and then all things will be added unto you”.  What that means to me is, when we focus on our spiritual health and stop trying to live up to standards of the world or even to ourselves then and only then we will be free and realize the power is within us. No wonder God wants us to turn away from the world.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic and if you heard The Velvet Rope album. I also encourage you to watch the HBO special for the concert.

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Self-Care and Love (Beyond Pampering)

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Everyone wants to make videos and speak on self-care but what is it and what does it look like. Self- Care is more than just bubble baths, faces masks and detox water. Although self-care can include that, it is much more.

Self Care is making sure you are groomed even when you don’t want to shower. Cleanliness will make you feel better and you may even get a jolt of energy.

Self Care is taking time to reflect on what you did each day.  We don’t think about what we did during the day, what was accomplished or how we felt throughout the day. We don’t question why we’ve felt what we felt. I was guilty of journaling and not being conscious while I write. After I would journal, I still felt the same way I did before I journaled, but now that I reflect I feel much calmer. I also gain clarity and insight.

Self-Care is doing what is best for you. Sometimes, doing what is best for you is something that you may not want to do. You may have to read when you don’t want or to or break up with someone that you love.

Self-Care is knowing who you are. You have to realize that you are a better person than you think you are. Depression can make you feel like you aren’t resilient or a horrible person but that isn’t true. Don’t degrade yourself just forgive yourself and work on your issues. It is something that is hard and we tend to condemn ourselves but there isn’t any reason why you need to put yourself in hell. Let God be the judge and stop judging.

Self-Care is celebrating. Sometimes we don’t realize that we got a lot done in one day.  It is okay to pat yourself on the back because you deserve it.

Self-Care is not pressuring yourself. Be kind to you. Love yourself and be patient.  You are not supposed to be another person or a copy.

Self- Care is healing. Free yourself and live authenticly.

Self-Care products that I highly recommend:

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Kao MEGURISM Health Care Steam Warm Eye Mask,Made in Japan, Lavender Sage 14 Sheets

I like using the lavendar steam eye masks for the bags under my eyes or when I need to be still and calm down. The warm up very quickly and feel very soothing.

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Aura Cacia – Discover Essential Oils Kit (Packaging May Vary) | .25oz each of Lavender, Peppermint, Tea Tree and Eucalyptus

Aura Cacia is a brand of essential oils that I have used. I use these with their infuser but you can use any type of infuser with these or however else you want to use these. My favorite scents are Jasmine, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli and Bergamont.

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Earl Grey Creme Black Tea by Teavana
This is my favorite tea. It is very soothing to drink and great with milk and honey. It will pair well with a Bergamot essential oil and bubble bath.

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How To Stop Being a Perfectionist ( and 5 Reasons why you should stop)

I am a perfectionist. It is hard for me to finish projects because they can always be better. Being a perfectionist also contributes to my inconsistency and procrastination. I put so much pressure on myself to do something great or just be the best. An example that I struggle with is reading the Bible and praying. I don’t stay consistent because I always pressure myself to read every day or I condemn myself a bad Christian. It does feel good the days when I do read the bible and I pray. It feels like a weight off of my shoulder but the hard part is reaching my own expectations for me.  I am always trying to be this perfect version of myself at the expense of myself. I’ve noticed that being a perfectionist has inhibited me to have peace within my mind and with myself. I don’t feel free. I am critical of everything and I hold myself back. I wait to have all of my ducks in a row until I can do something that I want to do.  So what is the point of being a perfectionist?

It isn’t healthy and there aren’t results. It affects hobbies and things that I would want to progress in. There isn’t a need for it anymore. If you are anything like me you may have these symptoms as well from being a perfectionist.

Here are some reasons why perfectionism isn’t healthy:

  1. Not Authentic (meaning no peace)
  2. Inconsistent because you put too much pressure on yourself
  3. Procrastination/Never completing tasks
  4. You hold yourself back because you wait for all your ducks to be in a row
  5. You’ll never be at your best

 

Again, there isn’t any worth to keep picking at yourself and plus it is not your place to judge anyone including yourself.

So…..

-Stop condemning yourself

-Learn to let go of the control and give it to a higher power

-Accept yourself and know that it will all work in your favor

 

Once we take these steps and learn how to be free life will be so much better. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Why I want to be a director

It all began when I was little,

I remember seeing the vastness of Egypt and all of its splendor through the Prince of Egypt. That was my introduction to the world of cinema. I was mesmerized by the world created on the big screen and wanted to make one of my own.

Hayao Miyazaki’s Spirited Away was the movie that propelled me to go after my dreams. After learning about how he made a film and was involved in all the details, I knew I wanted to be a director.

I have been preparing all my life for the opportunity to make my own film.  Throughout my years of schooling, I have practiced writing and drawing. I made comic books because it was the closest thing to making a movie that I could get to. It helped me learn about crafting a story and storyboarding. I have made my own music and delved deep into music production to understand what makes a great soundtrack.

I have learned how to edit, I’ve been in plays and many other things that deal with film. So why not me.

I do not want to be a Director or filmmaker for money.  I want to do it as an art.

Film is a way for me to combine everything I love. Everything that is a part of who I am and give birth to my inner universe. I must create and keep creating.  If I don’t create then I cannot be free. It is agonizing holding on to ideas and entire worlds.

I may not make my worlds come alive today or even in the next couple of years but knowing that I strived to make this dream into a reality is all that I need.

That is why I want to be a director.

 

 

 

 

How You should read the bible

As you all know I am inconsistent with reading the Bible among many other things.  I try so hard to do the right thing and be consistent. I often times found myself not “delighted” in the Lord.  I would try and read the Bible as fast as I could or read as little as possible until I found this article.   The title of the article is Do You Read enough Bible and it is a great question.  In the article, the writer discusses his own battles with reading the bible and how we have all went about it the wrong way.  We should be excited about reading the bible because it is the book of Eternal Life and it liberates us.  The Bible truly is the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.  We should be eager to meditate on the word and memorize it because it is for our benefit.  It is the key component that we need to get through today and the rest of the days of our lives.  So I encourage that you too will go and read the article and also sign up for the e-mail subscription.

The Article:

Desiring God article

Why you should keep your purpose separated from your Career choices

The most detrimental choice that I made was chasing after purpose.   I  did not know what to do after high school. The high school I went to put a lot of pressure on going to college and making a career choice while I was a sophomore. I did not know what to do.  I started trying to look for my purpose as if I was gonna get all of the answers to questions like what I was good at and how I was going to be successful. All of the stress piled up and led to suicidal attempts, spending three days in the psych ward and then missing school.  The more I searched for my purpose, the less I felt fulfilled. I made my own purpose sometimes and tried to take control. I didn’t enjoy life at all and it was hard for me to build a foundation.  As I grew up my likes changed and what I thought I wanted I didn’t want anymore. It took me seeking God instead of my purpose to know that it isn’t for me to know right now. I have the choice of being happy if I didn’t hold myself to such high standards and accept who I was created to be. Instead of trying to be God let God do his job.

A career isn’t the sole reason why we live. It is beyond that. In our society, it feels like that is all we live for.

 

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